Where is home?

The definition of home is a question that has been posed to me by others rather than by myself. My nomadic genes determine that there is not a physical place for home.

What home is, varies from person to person depending on their life experience as much as their inherited traits. It also depends on what life stage you are in. When you are single and childfree, home can be yourself. Wherever you go could be home. 

Most recently we have come across the rather playful definition of home as "the place where your phone is already connected to the WiFi". You then find yourself at home when you go to the local cafe or to a dear friend's house. 

As the years pass by and, if you have the joy of having a family, your home is where you create memories with your loved ones. In my case, my nest is still full. Nesting has been a need I've been fulfilling in the aftermath of a giant elephant stepping near my nest and shaking it to its core. 

I have learned that home is where my children are happy. They are young enough to benefit from motherly support. They have led me to my real home after I almost fell from the nest. They have taught me that I can cling on to our nest and that the nomadic lifestyle is not always the answer to my problems. 

Sometimes we have to fight for our home. When your nest is attractive to predators they will come and attack. It is up to you to be attentive and willing to fight back. Protect your chicks and keep the nest clean and filled with love for them to come back even after they have flown away. 

This is my conclusion on this matter. 

Where is home? Home is where you feel most loved. This love starts from within, for who can receive love from others if not able to open a clean heart to them? 

I thank the elephant who shook my nest, for now, I have a prettier, happier nest. 

Writing anonymously: how to start a new community of followers when pain strikes

There are situations in life when it is better to write only for those who will not judge you or tell you what to do. There are challenges you face that require empathy and unconditional support. Not all your readers will be able to offer this if you disclose too much from the other parties involved.

Writing anonymously is a great way to drain anger, disappointment and publish that letter you will never send. It is in a way similar to writing about those feelings of pain and grief that involve people in your family or close friends and then destroying what you wrote. In publishing anonymously you have the advantage of the input from others who are going through the same challenges. It is also a way to feel that the way you deal with your suffering can help in the recovery of your readers.

How do you start a new community of readers 

A fantastic place to start the community of readers that will benefit from your writing is Twitter. Create a handle that is relevant to the challenge you are facing. For example @SingleDad or @DivorcedAndAngry. Search for a relevant hashtag and start following and retweeting from those whose content resonates with you.

It is impressive how much support you can find. There are communities for every life challenge you might be facing. #Autism #Unemployed #DivorceSucks #SingleParent

Some people will have a personal profile with their real names but they will follow you back if they see you are a real person behind a pen name and a saying profile photo.

Create a new blog

Creating a new blog here on Google's Blogger is as easy as 1,2,3. Just find an available domain name, related to your Twitter handle and start writing and sharing your articles on your anonymous Twitter account. I wouldn't call it fake, it is a pen name to protect your identity, aka your sanity and the reputation of those you love. 

Important: Make sure the template you choose for your anonymous blog doesn't reveal your Google profile. 

Happy Writing Anonymously to Heal!

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